Purple Tango Shoes - The Choices We Make

On the Eve of International Womens Day I am pausing to reflect on how women become strong and independent. I am convinced the choices we make along our journey is critical. I am very proud of my daughter and the difference she is making already early in her career as a Psychologist. I watch her make choices about how she lives her life and how she stays true to her passions, loyal to those that matter to her.  It is nearly a year since her marriage to her best friend. Choosing to wear purple tango shoes under her wedding dress summed up the statement she wanted to make about the life she was choosing. She wanted to be herself - independent but committing to a partner for life. I know that part of the strength she has comes from the constant focus Michael and I have had on our own  relationship and how we work to understand each others needs. Through good and tough times. His willingness over the years to not only "help out" in parenting and household commitments but to really embrace this as a shared responsibility. Do we have expectations at home as well as work to ensure equality for both partners? This focus has  ensured I could pursue the choice of my career and education. Interestingly he sees that this has also contributed to him feeling equality as a parent. Knowing Michael  was by my side no matter how tough the going became, even when the workplace in the 80's and 90's  often  made me feel isolated and different. Not just because of my gender,  but the difference of my career background, socioeconomic status. All that come together to make up who I am.  His encouragement and strength gave me the strength to be me. Maybe I didn't wear purple tango shoes at our wedding but the greatest choice I made was my partner for life. This, combined with embracing opportunities at work, no matter how scary,  when they presented has ensured every choice I make has contributed to my strength personally and professionally #BeBoldForChange